Love happens .. Believe me it does

Not to get all sappy on you as we near valentine’s day, but i’ve been thinking lately about how people express love. not the mushy-gushy romantic love, necessarily. but friendship, respect, admiration, or just general ‘like’. There are five different ways that people give, and accept, love. the five “love languages” are:
1. words of affirmation,
2. quality time,
3. receiving gifts,
4. acts of service,
5. physical touch.


Every person has a primary love language. this means that they feel love most when it is shared with them in this particular language. think about how you can apply this in every one of your relationships (direct report, significant other, friend, neighbor, customer, etc). her primary love language is gifts? bring her a key chain from your trip to the grand canyon and the gesture will mean the world to her. take out her garbage (act of service), and she may not acknowledge the gesture. In my case, She expects nothing but love from me .. i love her more than i could express in words
however- sometimes we express love in OUR primary language; not theirs. this can lead to misunderstandings and conflict, because people are not necessarily ‘hearing’ the love that you’re giving.
for example, say your mom’s primary love language is quality time. this means that she really values the time that you two spend together (cooking, jogging, watching movies), and sees those experiences as a declaration of your love for her. however- if you are not aware that her primary love language is quality time, you may think that sending her a card on her birthday shows her that you love her. but in all actuality, she would have felt it so much more if you showed up at her doorstep on her birthday. she would have heard that expression of love loud and clear.


what your primary love language? and do you make yourself aware of those of the people around you? answering these questions is a helpful exercise. it strengthens the method of communication between two people, and helps ensure that the ‘love’ that’s being given, is also received.

Keep it interesting

In modern day relationships, people look for partners who make their lives more interesting.

Now i’m not married, nor do i claim to be an expert in the (romantic) relationship department.  but i would claim with a fair amount of conviction that this argument applies to every relationship.
we are friends with people that open our minds.  we enjoy the company of those who challenge our thinking; give us a different perspective or point of view.  we like to be around people who do things that we’ve never done.  traveled to unique and exotic places.  jumped out of airplanes.  hiked mountains.  challenged convention.  we’re drawn to these people – not only because it’s actually quite exhilarating to be around them – but because they make us feel better about ourselves and our lives, too.
and i would argue that we actually  like ourselves more, when we consider ourselves to be as interesting as the people we strive to be around.  the article refers to the process of accumulating knowledge and experience as “self-expansion”.  the more frequently we infuse our minds and our lives with new things – the more fulfilled we feel. 

while it doesn’t always seem convenient or safe or responsible -  perhaps this year is the year for adventure.  the year to shake things up a little.

play a few mind games with yourself:  next time your first instinct is to say “no.”   suppress it – take a deep breath.  and say “yes.    it can be a trip across the city, or a trip across the world.  a new class, a new acquaintance, a new food, or a new hobby, habit, or interest.    science tells us our relationships - and our happiness - depend on it.
this article suggests that we also make it a point to surround ourselves with people who – in some small or big way – make us better.   so if we want to live a life of experience, emotion, exuberance, and continuous improvement  - we’ve got to surround ourselves with people that make a habbit of doing so with theirs.

here’s to action – and adventure – and to keepin’ it interesting.  

Live your life

People spend years shying away from passions, likes, tendencies, quirks, styles, habits, hobbies, or loves that are within them. they muffle them down and stiffle their progress; for fear of failure, rejection, judgement, disdain. we put our true selves on ‘mute’ in an effort to stick to the safer, more routinely traveled.

I did this for a time; i think we all do it at some point in our lifes. for some length, for some seemingly pragmatic reason.

But it is important to understand (and take to heart), that you were put on this planet to embrace that quirky, sophisticated, daring, silly, edgy, unique, passionate, shy, loveable human being that you are!!!

Don’t take that glory away from yourself. study it. embrace it. celebrate it. bask in it. analyze it. but more important than anything else in this world – love it! your light is in there – you can’t be afraid to flip the switch.
be exactly who YOU are and rock your way out of it. it’s way more fun than being anybody else.

Always live life the way you want ..

If you are a follower of my blog you will know that this is dedicated to my best friend .. she has redefined my life. I have rediscovered my passion for writing again ..

I have started living my life again .. have you ???

My First Date

Girl .. How should i start this .. I have been waiting to take the woman i love the most .. There has always been a speculation whether she would agree for a date or not .. after waiting it out .. she finally agrees to go out the week after 1st Jan 2011 . It is a huge moment for me .. now that she said she would go out with me .. She had a condition .. No gifts ..I had to agreed to it ..She is Smart .. I had a whole in front of me to plan things out .. I did plan so many things. Had divided the map of hyderabad into green zones (less crowded) & Red zone (Crowded Places) .. There are so many places to visit in Hyderabad (City of Pearl) But i was not able to find one for me .. Made atleast three to four plans .. Called one of my friends to ask his car for the date. He agreed .. Time passed .. It was friday and the day after was the D-day for me .I could barely contain my excitement that I'm finally meeting my best friend & the woman i love the most for the first time outside. Even though i have been out with her on different occassions. This was different. I wanted to be a stand out in the crowd.

It was saturday, I didnt sleep for a second.. Anticipating a really nice day ahead. It started out on a amusing note as i tripped right at the entrance.. But regained balance.. There was another hurdle in my path .. My friend backed out and so i was left with no car and i couldnt imagine taking my girl in bus or train for that matter.. I was almost lost and Blank .. I was moments away from meeting my sweetheart and spending the whole day with her ..I was sitting on my bed waiting when I heard the phone ring, It was her message .. The message " Tell me the time & plan ". Told her that i wouldnt getting the car & told her to get ready by 10.30 .. Called the cab service .. I started from my House at 9.45 am in the morning .. The cab driver was a tired man and looked like he needs sleep or he might drive me into one of the drainages next to the road. I drove the car with thoughts about meeting her. The anxiety turned to nervous excitement. She called me up to confirm whether i had started .. told her i was on my way .. Through the traffic and choas .. Reached the place .. she was walking to the place she told me to wait .. I couldnt wait a second. Asked the cab driver to drive towards the way she is coming from .. There She was, really dressed up for the Occassion . I couldnt just take my eyes off her..I had butterflies in my stomach , my mind started to race, and I couldn’t wipe the smile off my face. She just saw me and sat in the car. I pinched myself couple of times to make sure it wasnt a dream because it was too good to believe it was true that she with me ..

We started our journey together. I was just looking at her. I did feel little bad because she hardly had any sleep .. She asked me about the plan. I told her that i had planned to take her Ohri's 1857\Eatstreet.. She gracefully disagreed to it. Told her about the plan for the day.. She said she doesnt want to go there .. Shuffled the plans all over .. Finally we started off to the place i first decided (Sanghi Temple).. It was far and we did have time in our hands .. As usual, I started my banter and she patiently listended to it, Smiling away ;-) ..

Finally we did sanghi temple after going round & round .. It's been quite sometime i had been to sanghi temple.. Much to our disappointment. The Temple was closed and the time was 12.45 or 1 pm .. Normal days it is open from 8 am - 12 pm & 4 pm - 8 pm .. We couldnt wait that long.. headed back to the place where we started our journey .. I was cursing my luck and probably bad planning on my behalf .. Trust me i thought she would be upset and angry .. But she amazed me .. She just smiled back at me assuring that it's ok ..

It was lunch time and we stopped by a restuarant which was not that great but we had to contend with .. I walked through the restuarant making my way to the Family Section. Sat at one corner .. I wouldnt give the details of the menu here .. But we spent more than one & half hour to have our lunch .. I just every minute of it because i was with her .. I so wanted to hold her hand & walk through the restuarant .. After a not so lavish lunch, We started heading back to her place. She opened the chocolate i got for her .. I snatched a piece of it .. I so wanted to feed her but she refused .. She requested me to eat .. In hyderabadi, main bhaaw kha raha tha, ladki ka sar fir gaya. almost bolne wali thi ki baad main jaa.. It was now my turn to ask her to request me again.. she did and It was the cutest moment of the day ..

Got down at her place. It was 5.30 and i didnt want to let her go .. walked to a super market .. did some windows shopping .. I really relish & Cherish the time i get to spend with her .. We had Pani Puri, walked to the bus stop. She asked me to go but i insisted on walking her home. Initially she said no and we started walking towards her place . The road was a disaster .. Through the dark till the turning of her house . I was with her .. Just when i was about to say sorry. She interrupted me by saying " I really had a wonderful day ", even better thing was in store for me .. She held my hand & hugged me from side .. I didnt expect a hug but when she did, She made me realize regardless of where we go, those feelings remain.  And this time, for me, it’s a bit more special because she hugged me and said " me too " when i said " Sweetheart, I Love You "..

I was tired but then the excitement took over .. i was literally jumping on the road , dancing and singing awfully but who cares .. I was happy soul ..


Even though plan didnt work as expected. I had the best day of my life because i spent the entire day with her . I could witness her beautiful smile, naughtiness, playful nature .. She brings the best in me ..

I love the “first date” feelings I got.  The excitement, nervousness, wonder-what-she’s-thinking…


Wish to be with her soon again ..

To know more .. Stay tuned



P.S. :  I love you. I am who I am because of you. You are every reason, every hope, and every dream I've ever had, and no matter what happens to us in the future, everyday we are together is the greatest day of my life. I will always be yours

Pretty Woman

People .. As you know this blog is dedicated to my best friend and my sweetheart .. This is again about her .. how much she inspires to write and post

A woman is a soft, delicate , magnificent creation of god.When you think of the word " Woman ", what comes to  your mind first .. think & think ..  that's right .. you are thinking right .. Beautiful, Pretty, Elegant & so on .. Have you ever wondered or cared to know why are they so special ??

Let me try telling you,

Sight of woman is always a delight for every man ..It is refreshing as fresh petals with dew drops glistening & eyes of tender leaves smiling. Woman's smile is the ajar flowers, inside there is the poem and the picture overflowing, but also has the silent music.Ever tried looking beyond that . You will see that every woman is beautiful ..


Gentleness is woman's weapon, one of expression of woman charm. No matter how she looks, if she is gentle, she is always like spring's flower, gives you special fragrance, its summer rain, strokes and washes your tears on face, is autumn's gentle breeze, whispers to you secretly sweet things, its winter melody that sings for you pure and clear song.Talking to and living with such a woman always gives you hope and inspiration to life. Guess i kind of lost my track here but this what happens when i talk with my sweetheart .. she makes me go crazy and i love that in her . She is my Inspiration. Step out and find yours too ..


Most people think the woman's charm comes from her beauty outside. Her outside beauty is compared to the star filled sky or an early morning sunrise,a flower, the way the wind blows, shades of the sky, rainbows, waterfalls, birds singing. I know almost of men like beautiful woman, who is beautiful . But i believe that the depth and warmth of the heart will touch and hold you  in the cycle of happiness much longer than when you only touch the glow of soft skin or gaze at sparkling eyes. Beautiful woman is the woman believes she is beautiful, she always tells herself that and believes that amidst all doubt. And then all people around her will see her beautiful too. Beauty has its own voice, but you cant hear it if you dont give the ears to your heart.
She makes you not only admire magnificence of her soul but the way she sheds tears and softness of her words.You can only feel value in each word she says, but the knowledge of when to hold it and the journey she has taken to learn. When she gives you courage, you can know not only strength of her dertermination to fight and struggle, but confidence to say yes or no and willingness to go ahead. You can feel her grace not only through her dance but each note of love she has left and warm arms she has spreaded over her family with silent sacrifice. It shows woman beauty comes much more from her strength inside.If you can appreciate them, gaze deep inside, you will find the key to her heart.

This is for U Sweetheart

Little moments that we live life in

These are the little moments i look forward to .. Every single moment of every single day .. I wish .. sometimes dream of these moments ..

It would have took just a smiling gesture to make me feel good,
slowing down a little bit while returning with those flashy shop bags would have made it so more easy to walk without making me trip over while tryin to catch up with you,
watching with me what i was watching for a minute atleast without snatching off the remote,
hugging me or you a little while we stood on the balcony with me shivering to the cold breeze,
helping me with the pronunciation in the Italian furniture store wouldn't have been that hard,
dropping in the kitchen for a moment just to make me feel you know where i am in the house isn't hard,
asking me how long will i be up with my office work before i go off to sleep is what i yearn for,


No,i don't ask for myself..i ask for the "Us" we have built.
i don't ask for you in much.
 i ask for a little time,a slight glance,a moment's laugh,a silent smile,a tight hug,a good morning hum..
..and a goodnight's kiss.


Maybe that would take a second
but it would last an eon in my breath-wrenched heart-drained time-frailed lost-beaconed reasoned-enough smothered soul.

P.S. : This is just a glimpse of what i have in my mind 

True Inspiration is my love .. 

The year 2010

We are truly arriving at the end of what would be called a very optimistic year for mankind !! Yes, 2010, truly was a fabulous year. It gave assurance to a gentleman named Kasab against death in a country where he raised mayhem. It saw delayed legal proceedings against the gentleman who once promised to change the face of Indian sports arena (he did change it although, to a very sorry one) - Mr. Suresh Kalmadi as he smiled through the Commonwealth Games fiasco with a naughty boy grin. We also saw people behind online social networking or news platforms - Mark Zuckerberg(FB) and Julian Assange(Wikileaks), beating the US president, in the "Times" magazine, person of the year, thus giving the idea of the increased domination of cyberspace in our lives (i am expecting a few nightmares on the lines of Terminator: Salvation).

We saw hope of getting along well with extra terrestrials, when Lady Gaga strutted around with hideously designed weird clothing pieces. The Indian govt. also grew increased confidence in the nation's ability to take shocking scams in it's stride and move on, little perturbed by the 2G in the air, foreign athletes' woes at the games village, Kargil martyr's apartments being taken over by the our true son's of the soil - the dirty politicians and the latest, ulterior corporate motives and active lobbying which came to the fore with the Radia-tapes episode.

Ok, enough with the satire !! There were feel good things also. The Indian Cricket team, finally achieved no. 1 status and held on to it. Quite a dream for the millions of fans who have ate slept and drunk cricket all their lives. We got to watch Indian athletes winning medals by the dozen. We saw the rise of Saina Nehwal, as a top shuttler in the world!! We saw the stock markets rollicking back to the top, adding happiness with generous helpings of caution this time around amongst the investors. We saw a careful budget and a fair court order on the age old Babri Masjid issue. We even managed to warm our eyes to on the hip-shaking Badnaam Munni and Jawaan Sheila.We had Amitabh Bachchan welcoming us on national television yet again in that "omigawd-its-so-grim-n-sexy" tone that only he has, to play Kaun Banega Crorepati. We had Dolly Bindra, who reminded us of what a feel-good happy life we are leading (by not facing her in the Big Boss House). We had a whole bunch of Box office "jewels", to discard and yet, surprisingly, a decent number of good movies on offer from the Indian Film Industry.

Personally, my year was pretty good. I continued to live amongst love, fun and friendship, passing yet another year in glory. Here's a funny list of my achievements or high moments this year :


1) Managed two full fledged trips to Goa & Delhi !! (Ideally the norm is one)

2) Saw the Indian cricket team achieve Test No.1 ranking in the world

3) Struck to the same job, beyond a year (a first of it's kind, didnt happen earlier, for unfortunate "haalaats")

4) Started watching Plays, two infact - "Class of 84' " and "Get rid of my wife" and loved the experience.

5) Successfully avoided meeting the frightening species of "choose-me girls" for marriage. With all due respect, will not get to enjoy this luxury anymore. (Conditions Apply)

6) Succeeded in reviving this blog....despite fewest hits possible...my busy hunky dory schedule. The motto was and will be to write for self, with an idea to entertain somebody

7) Bought a new phone :-) .. (Honestly bad choice :-( )

Here comes the best part .. I almost managed to retain the Title " Single Again " but the girl of my life swept me off my feet. I fell in love with my Best Friend . Loving every minute since then ..

I think this might be my last post for this year. Thank you 2010, for all that you bestowed. Hope for an even better one in 2011.

This blog is dedicated to my love